To love? or being love? these questions is so confusing. anyone of us have someone we love most. we forked so much energy, strength and money. (money not that important) and lastly TIME. when thing fail, we blame this and that. we trying so so so hard to find why why why. i know it easlier to say than done. but let me just say. i know the pain, hurt, sadness in your heart. cant let go. cant do this or that. ask ourselve, do we really deserve this or that. am i not better, or is she or he so heartless. come on step out of it. i know it hurt, it pain and its sad. we must hold on to be true to ourselve. in case you don know, according to what i been throught, divorce, breaking up. love, hate, having my own children (twin boy) my house, my car. and lost all again. i tell you one thing, I FEEL NOTHING. REALLY. why you ask. its no big deal my dear friend, i have the feeling above like i mention, but within a short period, i stand up. i'm not heartless, i'm not blameless, i'm not God. when breaking up, you try this or that to save the relatioship. but i tell you, its only hurting it more cause the thing to break faster.
your action you do is out of your love, the other person find you are a nusiance. really. not joke i know. after all thing happened i analyse, i study, i try to understand, i try to learn, i accept all the fact, the myth, the PROMISE. in the end i stand up again. its just don kill me. make me learn. coz when thing hapened i always tell myself. Jesus die willingly for anyone. ANYONE EVEN HE NEVER SEE BEFORE. HE IS WILLING. the word here is willing. will you not? YES, i don deny that we still have memory about he or she. keep it for you know whats best for you is it not? thing he or she give you. Keep it not need to destroy, for that are the thing that remind you is it not? when thing happened most of us will only remember the SHIT thing he or she do to us. WHY WE FORGET THE GOOD TIME? ..........
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Pls allow me to ask you. If you have a girlfriend or wife now, how do you treat her? Do you have any idea or measurement for yourself to know that you love her or show that you love her?
Of course everyone will have expectations. Some high, some low. There is no standard. But surely if you love her, you will give in to her, or think of her feelings or her needs/wants during different situations. Do you give more? Or do you take more? Giving as in not only tangible things, but your care and concern, your time, your willingness to compromise or sacrifice, your efforts, your sincerity, your assurance, etc.
:) how if you were asking no way. how we put word where we cant even express? :) sometime you know it, but you wont do it by this can it be of a standard?? you already have the half answer to your question. we expect, if thing dun go toward what we expect will one be happy?? situation change, i cant determine my love standard for someone base on certain thing. like i say. must i give in then prove i love her?? There's no right or wrong in love, acceptance, forgiving, always trust,always protect. in time, time is not with us so how to compromise? its like this when i say i love her, people will question why. but, alley cat, search your own soul ask yourself, do you think you really can answer this question so perfectly? No way for me. you know there is something that link to all the above mention like time care and all. one very important FACTOR. that is HAPPY. ask ourselve are we happy in the first place before we come to all time, concern and all. Are you?? if this factor is lost all is lost. you can don believe me. coz everyone goes through different thing. it may work for you, but not for me. it work differently.
Anyway sorry if i sound hard on this. Very Sorry. hope it don offence you. :) catch you later
:) No you did not offend me. But if you love someone, surely you want her to be happy. How can you love someone yet let her be sad?
Surely you will want to do somethings that will make her happy, and not only YOURSELF happy. Or you will not do things that will make her sad. If you only care about your own happiness and not care about hers, I can say it is not love, it is selfishness. And if you want that person to be happy, you have to do or not do something right? We can't just think in our mind "yes i love him/her" and expect things to happen magically themselves.
sure your fast to reply. you seem to sleep late from the time i see.
well, if you were to read carefully what i wrote to you, you will not reply me in this rush manner. :) actually i was waiting and i know you will reply soon :) yes, in a way your right HAPPY. but it mean differently to differently people. and i think i did not mention about my own happiness, anyway that word really mean nothing to me already. i live to entertain people. :) well i least i think so. you know i'm not trying to jam you but, i know your hurt maybe very hurt. you relate yourselve to something. maybe you feel something. or maybe something's something. you are eager to find an answer that quell your heart, try to comfort yourselve. (sorry if i say something, i'm just trying to explain myself coz i'm not really good in this) :)and when the answer its like what you wanna hear you feel comforable? or maybe not. some how i think you really put in all your heart and soul. but in return, there's no return, you feel odd? there's something you must aware of is. YOURSELVE. coz if you goes into a cave too deep. you might not be able to come out. like i say MIGHT NOT. :)
yes we want our partner to be happy of course, if he or she is happy all thing will come naturally. don you think so?
:) love is something something to some thing something. if you know what i mean. till then don think too mush eh.. :) see you soon
I think if you love this person, you will know what makes him/her happy or unhappy. Then you will do what makes him/her happy and won't do things that makes him/her unhappy. All these are out of love for this person. Do you often do things out of love for your partner? Or you don't? By the way, Merry Christmas :)
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